Bumble Guy Update Part 2

So I know you all have been sitting on the edge of your seat waiting to see what happened with Bumble guy from my previous blog post.

After I knew he was a scammer (used Bumble to get girls into the club he was promoting), I canceled all expectations and took him for what he was-- just someone to invite me out on the weekends. I had a couple pretty shitty weeks where I had no energy to even go out on the weekends so I'd make up excuses and then eventually just started telling him that I didn't feel like it. Yet he persisted and three or four times a week I'd get the same texts "Hey babe" (not ur babe??) and every time he would say he's going to the sameeee club. Of course the one he was promoting.

This one night though, he told me they were celebrating his friend's birthday who was the only one I genuinely got along with (met her on Bumble too surprise surprise). I said yes, then I flaked cause I was too tired, and his response "That's not cool, she was really excited to see you." I knew that was most likely a lie but I still felt bad and knew I had to at least make an appearance for this.

It was strange. We met at a restaurant/bar and it was a group of around seven girls and just the Bumble guy. There wasn't even enough room at the table for all of us so I was uncomfortably standing to the side.. and no one was talking. Sometimes when you meet new people, you just feel their energy and know they're good people. That's what happened with the girl sitting down next to me. I took comfort in her because she looked awkward too. I asked her some questions about herself and she told me she was 18 and a freshman in college. (WTFFFFFF) Then, she dropped the line. "I met him on Bumble."

She said "This is our first time meeting, I thought it was going to be a one on one date but..." sound familiar??? I immediately felt a little defensive and took this girl under my wing. At 18 years old I definitely would not have gone out by myself with a 25 year old and his friends. I pulled her aside and said "I just wanted to let you know that he met all of these girls on Bumble too." I needed to tell her because I didn't want her to be embarrassed or blind-sighted by the whole situation.

She told him she was going to leave and almost simultaneously he put his arm around her- as if she was just pining for affection and he could easily fix the issue. They went outside to talk and came back in where she told me they had talked it over and were fine. So I continued on with my night and met this other girl sitting on my other side.. who told me.. she had met him a couple weeks earlier... on Bumble. Seriously when is it going to end?? So I told my 18 year old buddy and she said "Okay I just want to let you know that while we were outside he said you were clingy and annoying."

Now. I know when I'm being annoying. And I know when I'm being clingy. I am completely self aware. And it is! Definitely! Not! With! This! Guy!!!! All of his texts every single day asking me to go out and all of my made up excuses were racing through my head. So I grabbed the girl and we walked out of the bar to leave. I said I'd drive her home.

But Bumble guy followed and there the three of us were in an awful Bumble themed triangle.

18yr: We're just going to go because you collect women on Bumble just to show them off for attention and it makes me uncomfortable

Bumble Guy: You're leaving just because of what Jaye's saying?

18yr: No. This isn't Jaye. She just informed me. This is you. It's disrespectful and I don't like it so I'm going to go.

Bumble Guy: I just don't understand..

18yr: Well I think it's pretty weird that you're not letting us leave right now

Bumble Guy: Fine leave whatever. But I don't understand.

The whole time I was cringing while simultaneously rooting for this BRAVE girl 4 years younger than me. This was the conversation that I should have had with him the first time around but I guess I decided I didn't care enough to. So I dropped her off at her dorm.

When I got home I texted Bumble guy and said "You wanna explain to me how I'm annoying and clingy?" His response was "Delete my number" I thought about responding something snarky but again I just didn't care enough to keep it going. He was probably wicked embarrassed. So that ends my experience with dating apps..