My First Bumble Experience

You know that sea everyone's always talking about? The one with plenty of more fish? Well I found it.

Moving across the country to a big city is changing some things about my dating life- mainly that I actually have one now lol. I've been here for about three weeks and so far I've mostly clung to my roommate Sandra and whatever plans she has. Sandra is eight years older than me so we're obviously at different points in our lives. She's been in serious relationships.. I haven't.. she's been engaged before.. I definitely haven't.. And while I'm used to casual sweatpants "hangouts" with a group of people my own age or "going out" in downtown Lowell.............. she's used to socializing with successful 30-40 year old men at SoHo House. The difference in experience has low key given me culture shock a little bit.

This new found motivation to meet men.. (real MEN).. who already have their shit together plus watching Sandra go out on dates with men she matched with on a dating app, encouraged me to re-download Bumble. In the past, I've basically just used Bumble as an ego boost. I got to see who was mutually attracted to me, have a short convo, and that was that. I definitely wasn't desperate enough to actually follow through with an in-person meet up in Chelmsford.. plus at home, casual dating like that wasn't really a thing.. most people in relationships knew each other from high school or college.

So I matched with this guy on Bumble. He had asked me to go out with him and his friends last weekend but I ended up going to SoHo House with Sandra. I thought that was the end of that but then he asked me to go out again this weekend.

Things that I liked about him:

- gorgeous blue eyes and brunette hair

- 6'0" tall

- lived in New York

- good sense of style

- 20k followers on Instagram... I'm already day dreaming about couple pics??

- a nice smile with white teeth

- a sense of humor

- a model who cares about being in shape

- not annoying but persistent in hanging out

I replied "sure, I'm down for drinks or dinner" (trying to be the ~mature~ new dating woman that I am). He replied "okay I think I'm going out with the same group from last week. Probably Villa again. You down to meet up there?" ...........okay............ so he doesn't want to be one on one. Maybe that's smart! Less pressure to keep the conversation going and no stranger danger. But I don't have enough friends here yet to ask a girlfriend to go out with me so I knew I'd have to go solo- WHICH I DON'T DO. Going out solo with a Bumble guy and his friends? Talk about anxiety provoking. I talked through it with him, told him I've never met up with anyone from Bumble before to which he replied "same..." (which honestly made me feel kinda special even though I figured it was BS) and I asked if he was a promoter which he replied "Lol. No" I said "Thank god."

After talking to some friends and mustering up the courage, I found myself in an uber then standing outside of the Sushi restaurant he told me to meet at. (I hate sushi)

"Look left" he texts me. Okay, I like that..relaxed way of breaking the ice. He wasn't ugly.. didn't look like a catfish..

But I knew he wasn't my soulmate right off the bat. I couldn't stand his laugh.. something about the pitch. Even worse, the things he laughed at weren't funny.. and something about his side profile bothered me. Some people grow to love someone but I'm pretty good with first instinct decisions. When I know, i know. But the dinner with him and his friends was great and not awkward at all. Most people in LA come from other states and have just recently moved here so I took comfort in that. The guys paid for all the drinks and food which I thought was nice. Then, we headed over to Villa Lounge.

I honestly had a good time. I got to meet new people, make friends, have free drinks, and dance which kinda brought me back to morp days lol. I felt like the young 22 year old that I am. I was talking to one of my new friends and I confided in her how nervous I had been because I do not meet people from Bumble and she said "oh my god that's how I met him too!!" Then I looked around and realized it. All of the girls there... he had met through Bumble. WTF! And probably thought he was fooling me.. little snake. Feeling special is one of my favorite things in the world so when someone makes me feel the opposite of that, I'm immediately uninterested. THEN I was talking to one of his family friends who told me he was a promoter. COME ON!!!! Two lies in one night and I just met the guy! Over stupid stuff too. So he uses Bumble to get girls to go to clubs because he's a promoter. Smart, but phony.

I have a lottttttt to learn.